The Problems with Criticism
Criticism is not always wrong, but the problems it can create should be acknowledged and understood. Try to use criticism gently and sparingly if you care about your fellow human beings.
These are some of the ways heavy-handed criticism can cause problems:
1. Puts people on the defensive.
Causing them to feel attacked and breeding mistrust.
2. Motivate people to justify and defend/explain their actions.
How is this a problem?
Well it effectively shuts down positive communication by creating walls.
It can even have the detrimental effect of encouraging the person to "act out" in defiance towards the perceived "attack".
Even though we are ultimately responsible for our own actions, our influence on another person can have unintended consequences. So just something to keep in mind when entering potentially volatile situations.
3. Wounds a persons pride.
Even if we have the best of intentions we can still cause harm and damage.
When we criticize others we can possibly make others feel less than. While also causing them to feel irritated and annoyed with you and even undervalued, unappreciated and resentful.
It is important to build a person up more than tear them down. If you make an effort to find opportunities to build someone up, then when you must criticize them for whatever reason, and if you are kind about it, then the negative effects will be lessened.
4. Lowers self-esteem
Occasional criticism won't usually have that much of a negative effect on another person. But a person who receives constant criticism will find it has a detrimental effect. Keep in mind your opinions may not be the only ones this person is dealing with.
So be kind and considerate when you are critiquing another person.
5.. Be Kind
If you must criticize someone do it sparingly and gently.
Be kind. Be compassionate.
Learn to be diplomatic and be gentle while doing so.
6. Sometimes Criticism is Necessary
Sometimes it is necessary and imperative that we speak up and criticize and irritate someone.
It is up to us to determine if the criticism is worth the cost. if the answer is yes then do it.
Keeping a positive healthy atmosphere is a balance of
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The greatest battle we face is the one inside ourselves.
It is the one battle we should never give up on.
Striving to reach our fullest potential
and be the best we can be.
Persevere and you will be successful.
1. See the potential lesson
Even in tragedy and daily annoyances there is wisdom to be found everywhere. You may wish the negative things never happened but at the very least you can learn something from it.
That doesn't mean negative, rotten things are good though. It just means if you are going to get some real lemons you may as well make some lemonade. Add vodka if necessary! haha! :D
So look at your tragedies for an opportunity to improve on patience or forgiveness, compassion, valuing loved ones etc...
2. Appreciate what you do have (even if it is very little)
Taking time to focus on the things we do have that we can appreciate is a moment spent away from dwelling on the negative things in our lives. Everybody needs a break from their struggles. I am sure there is always something we can be grateful for. Whether it is good friends, a safe home, fresh water, good food or the hobbies you enjoy. Look around you and remember the things that are good in your life.
3. Enjoy the little things
A friendly smile, a warm hug, an adorable pet, a fun hobby, spending time with loved ones. Take some time to notice and acknowledge the joy found in these simple yet wonderful things.
4. You don't have to "do" anything to be happy
Give yourself permission to just BE, and recognize that is good enough.
5. Don't compare yourself to others
There is always someone better off than you and there is always someone worse off.
Comparing yourself to others is a sure way to start feeling miserable or inadequate.
So stop comparing and just live your own unique life.
(you may find inspiration in others and that is great but don't put yourself down!)
6. This too shall pass
I know it is an old cliche, but it is still true - nothing lasts forever.
Bad Things? Good Riddance!
Good things? Enjoy it while it lasts!
7. We all have flaws
Give yourself (and others!) a break. We all have flaws, we all screw up and we all struggle.
Try not to be too judgemental or critical and try to grow your own compassion, kindness and understanding.
8. Laugh at yourself and your foibles
Don't take life too seriously even when it is! When we can laugh at ourselves it helps the crap just roll off our back instead of sticking to us. Sometimes life is just ridiculous, so go ahead laugh at yourself and laugh at life.
9. Embrace Yourself!
Both physically (go on give yourself a hug! lol)
emotionally (love yourself!)
spiritually - enjoy the unique person that is you.
Thanks for reading i hope you enjoyed my thoughts on ways to brighten your day.