The Problems with Criticism
Criticism is not always wrong, but the problems it can create should be acknowledged and understood. Try to use criticism gently and sparingly if you care about your fellow human beings.
These are some of the ways heavy-handed criticism can cause problems:
1. Puts people on the defensive.
Causing them to feel attacked and breeding mistrust.
2. Motivate people to justify and defend/explain their actions.
How is this a problem?
Well it effectively shuts down positive communication by creating walls.
It can even have the detrimental effect of encouraging the person to "act out" in defiance towards the perceived "attack".
Even though we are ultimately responsible for our own actions, our influence on another person can have unintended consequences. So just something to keep in mind when entering potentially volatile situations.
3. Wounds a persons pride.
Even if we have the best of intentions we can still cause harm and damage.
When we criticize others we can possibly make others feel less than. While also causing them to feel irritated and annoyed with you and even undervalued, unappreciated and resentful.
It is important to build a person up more than tear them down. If you make an effort to find opportunities to build someone up, then when you must criticize them for whatever reason, and if you are kind about it, then the negative effects will be lessened.
4. Lowers self-esteem
Occasional criticism won't usually have that much of a negative effect on another person. But a person who receives constant criticism will find it has a detrimental effect. Keep in mind your opinions may not be the only ones this person is dealing with.
So be kind and considerate when you are critiquing another person.
5.. Be Kind
If you must criticize someone do it sparingly and gently.
Be kind. Be compassionate.
Learn to be diplomatic and be gentle while doing so.
6. Sometimes Criticism is Necessary
Sometimes it is necessary and imperative that we speak up and criticize and irritate someone.
It is up to us to determine if the criticism is worth the cost. if the answer is yes then do it.
Keeping a positive healthy atmosphere is a balance of
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